Many break ups end with phrases such as "Let's stay friends" or "We're better off as friends than lovers". Those words soften the blow of a break up, but if you're really serious about making it happen, things get a bit more difficult.
These tips should help you to stay friends with your ex girlfriend.
1. Start with some space. After a break up, both people are hurting and there's no need to start hanging out "as friends" the next day. Give yourselves some time to heal and to realize what went wrong in the relationship. You are less likely to have negative feelings when you have the time to work things through on your own.
2. Make sure that neither of you still has romantic feelings. Friendships don't usually work out when one person still has feelings for the other, especially if they were previously a couple. If you're going to be friends, then there needs to be no doubt that you both feel the same way about the break up.
3. Keep contact brief. Don't stay on the phone for hours at a time. Think about how you interact with other friends of the opposite sex and try to mimic those types of behaviors with your ex girlfriend.
4. Try to hang out in groups. It's much easier to be friends if you are hanging out in large groups of people. One-on-one time is too similar to dating and may bring up old feelings. Especially at the beginning, it's best to try to avoid one-on-one meetings.
5. Don't keep secrets. If you start dating someone, it's important to let her know. You may think that you're sparing her feelings, but she'll only be more hurt that you didn't tell her. It's important that you keep the lines of communication open so that both people feel comfortable.
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